He loves us the same

As a young believer, I misunderstood the love of God. Even though I knew scriptures that said that the love of God was not based on my works, it sounded too good to be true. I mean how could He love me in my bad days the same way He does on my good days? Even though I knew that He loved the sinful world enough to die to save us all, I thought I still had to be very good in order to make Him continue to love me. I failed woefully at this task. Each failure lead to further frustration. This Christianity thing was hard I won’t lie. It sounded like a very beautiful idea that was unachievable.

I saw those whose faith walk looked perfect always. ‘They deserved the love not me’ i said to myself. I sometimes wondered though how realistic this kind of walk was. But who was I to judge. The standard was too high. Sustaining God’s love for me seemed like an impossible task.

Sunday came and everyone had to act good and perfect. It looked fake. My little mind could not understand how fast and easy it was to wear the masks. Sundays looked very different from other days even though I was dealing with same people. I didn’t find it interesting. A part of me felt I had to do same to sustain God’s love. Despite being taught enough to know that God didn’t like me presenting a false image to Him, it was easier to act along just so i could fit in.

I often wondered what it would be like if we all took off the masks and showed who we were Monday to Saturday. I wondered if we could maintain same circle of friendships and if the religious titles would remain. Wasn’t this all part of the pursuit of sustaining God’s love?

“And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39

This was one of the most difficult scriptures for me to comprehend because i couldn’t understand how nothing could separate me from His love. Not even sin could separate me from His love.

The more i grew in faith, the more my flawed perception of God’s love began to melt away and i began to learn and understand that there is a difference between God loving me and God being pleased with me. There is nothing i do or will do that can ever make Him love me more or less. He loves the priest the same way He loves the terrorist. Sounds crazy i know. His love doesn’t make sense to our mere human mind because it is beyond our thought process. My actions has no impact on the measure of God’s love for me. My actions on the other hand determines whether He is pleased with me or not. 

Knowing that His love for me is secured, i became less concerned about sustaining His love and was more concerned on whether He is pleased with me.

This same measure of constant and steady love is what He has for you too. He sees the filthiness in us. He is the Truth that reveals the darkness in us but still He chooses to love us the same.

He doesn’t need you to clean up before coming to Him because He knows that you can never be clean enough for His standard. Hence He extends the open invitation to you. He wants you to come and enjoy the love He lavishes on everyone. Accept Jesus Christ today as your Lord and Saviour so you can feel His overwhelming love for He loves you the same.



53 thoughts on “He loves us the same

  1. I had the same concept. It took me years to realize that we can’t comprehend the heighth nor depth of His love. He loves us no matter what!I actually just did a fb post about how before I came to really know Him, I thought He was just waiting for me to mess up so He could meet out punishment.

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      1. I loved 90% of what you wrote and I hesitated to even comment because of my tendency to be transparent which I realize can be hurtful and that is not my intent. But the use of the word, “d—-m”, in this blog turned me off. I am not pure, i.e., not totally sanctified, but my heart is turned in that direction. And for many reasons I do not believe that 4-letter words serve a good purpose. Ok, so what’s the difference between, “d—m”, and, “darn”? I don’t know. But I know that God is so high and so Holy that He is worthy of my best words. “For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech.” (1 Pet. 3:10)

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      2. Thanks for your response. I have never considered it as a swear or curse word. I note that there are a lot of words some may consider profane which others don’t. A lot of factors affect this which I don’t think is necessary to discuss. I am glad though that the message of this post has not been missed and others are able to relate. I will however edit this post by taking that word off so it doesn’t become a stumbling block. Blessings!

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      3. It is a deep subject but I am with you and assure you that I did not miss your great message and I do know people do experience what you expressed. I wish that blogging was around when I got saved because I needed a lot of guidance, had a lot of questions and very few people could identify me.

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      4. I understand what you mean. Thank God for more understanding and teaching of the word which we are able to access on various platforms. God bless you indeed.


  2. I have had these EXACT thoughts! The love of God is so hard to wrap my brain around most of the time. I catch myself thinking, “Yea God loves that person because they do so and so..or because they’re dedicated to Him in this or that way” when in reality His love for that person and for me is the same! You put it perfectly: God loving me and being pleased with me is different. But I need to remember that my works are not a way to earn His love because I already have it. He already loves me. I aim to please Him with my life, but even during the times when I fall short His love for me remains the same. His love is not dictated by my actions. SO different from man…and I love that.

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  3. Amazing: “This was one of the most difficult scriptures for me to comprehend because i couldn’t understand how nothing could separate me from His love. Not even sin could separate me from His love.”

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  4. Praise the LORD Sister! Don’t you love how God speaks to us. I might not hear an audible voice but He still speaks through His Word. These verses are what changed my life. I had been so rotten in life. I knew Jesus, and God and was convinced that although I believed that I could never be loved by God, not His fault but because of all that was me. BUT I was determined to live a life that pleased God for whatever time I had left here. These verses changed all that or me. Nothing, not even me, not the things I had done, not even the daily slip ups, could separate me from the love of God! Hallelujah 🙂

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  5. I am thoroughly enjoying your blog, and I’m so glad I found it.

    I love how God uses the images from our human relationships to illustrate some of his own nature. The whole image-bearing thing…is big. While we cannot fathom how God “does it,” we can look to our human relationships to see images, sometimes, and that helps me.

    With God loving us even when we’re bad, we can look at how a human parent-child relationship (a functional, healthy one) for help in understanding. My parents loved me, even when I disobeyed. They loved me even when I disappointed them. They delighted in me when I had victories, and they guided me when I had failures. I get to see it from the other side with my own daughter. She can make me angry, sometimes, and she can disappoint me, sometimes, but I love her on those days every bit as much as I love on the days when she amazes me with her kindness, good choices, and thoughtfulness.

    We cannot truly understand God this side of eternity, I don’t think. He is not like us, and He is above us, and He is infinite. We are limited and small and corrupted. Still. Human relationships that are healthy show us dim reflections of God’s nature, and I think that is such a precious gift.

    Thanks for sharing this blog…and keep going!

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  7. Efua, what do you make of this passage of scripture from John 14:

    “Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me. And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) said to him, “Lord, how is it that you will manifest yourself to us, and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered him, “If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. 24 Whoever does not love me does not keep my words. And the word that you hear is not mine but the Father’s who sent me.”

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    1. Hi Sue. Thanks for your question. I think the love referred to here is a different kind of love which He expresses to His own. I am answering this way because of “and manifest myself to him.” I think it helps bring clarity to the context.

      As a parent, the love i have for my children is different from the love i have for other people’s children. The love i have for my kids spurns from a place of us knowing each other very well (intimacy). This intimacy leads to them having an access to a side of me that other kids who aren’t mine don’t have. The love referred to here is that which comes from a place of intimacy with God. It gives us access to help and favour that He promised us.

      Sinners have full access to this same level of love once they come into the family. My post was about the “God love the world” kind of love and how He gives rain, sun, food to believers and non believers. Maybe a follow up post for clarity purpose is ideal :).

      I will like to hear your thoughts 🙂

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      1. Thank you. I don’t have all the answers. I do believe God loves the people of this world, and that is why Jesus died for all that all might have the opportunity to be saved. But, I agree that the love being spoken of here is a more intimate love.

        Since Monday of this week I have been sick with congestion, cough, sore throat, and today headache has been added to the symptoms. So, when my head is a little clearer I will give this more thought. Thanks. 🙂

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      2. I’m currently doing a post to clarify that😊. I pray you get better.❤️❤️. I’m looking forward to your further response when you get better❤️❤️❤️

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      3. Efua, after I responded to you, the Lord started speaking to me about how I should respond to you, so, since you asked, I will share here what I believe scriptures teach on this subject. For, while it is true that we don’t do anything to deserve God’s love for us, for he loved us while we were yet sinners, still there is a fine line here between a true believer in Jesus Christ who is not perfect, and who occasionally fails, and one who professes faith in Jesus Christ but who is still habitually sinning against God.

        For example, the scripture you quoted from Romans 8:38-39 is often quoted and applied to all people who profess faith in Jesus Christ and is often given as a carte blanche to continue in willful sinful practices because, after all, no matter how much they sin, so they think, it will never separate them from God’s love. But, this scripture has to be interpreted in light of Romans 6 and all of Romans 8.

        The “us” this is talking about here are those who have died with Christ to sin and who have been resurrected with Christ to newness of life in him, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. They are walking (in practice) according to the Spirit and not according to the flesh. Their minds are set on things above and not on things on the earth. They aren’t perfect people, but they don’t give themselves permission to keep on in willful sinful practices while claiming that God’s love will never be taken away from them.

        Now to be fair, though, 5 of the 7 letters to the churches in Revelation were written to churches who were not walking with the Lord in all ways. Each of them had some kind of sinful practice they were involved in, and so Jesus was telling them they needed to repent or that they would face his judgement of some kind. And, even to the Laodicean church he stated that those he loves he disciplines, so they were to be earnest and repent.

        So, if we have genuinely come to faith in Jesus Christ, but we have drifted from the Lord in some way, he still loves us, yet he will discipline us in order to bring us back to him. I know this from experience. But, so many today are teaching a cheap grace gospel which assures people of God’s intimate love for them, which they often take as his complete acceptance of them no matter what they do, which I know you dealt with that, and so, even though they profess faith in Jesus Christ, their hearts are far from him, for they never were born again of the Spirit of God.

        So, sin can separate us from God’s love or his acceptance if we have this notion that faith in Christ means we can sin as much as we want without guilt. So, our actions do have an impact on that intimate relationship with God. We don’t have that intimate relationship with God if we have not ever really put our faith and trust in him, for if our profession of faith was lip service only, and we are still living like we did before, then scripture says we don’t know God, he doesn’t know us, and we don’t have eternal life with God. And, if we do know God, still our sinful behaviors can bring about God’s judgments on us and his rebuke and chastisement, for he loves us enough to discipline us in order that we might be made pure in him.

        Part of this cheap grace teaching, though, teaches that God is always pleased with us no matter what we do, which isn’t true. But, even if they do believe that God can be pleased or displeased with them, but if they have this idea that nothing, no amount of sin, can ever separate them from God, then we have a recipe for the cheap grace. For, while it is true that we don’t have to clean up before coming to faith in Jesus Christ, coming to faith in Jesus Christ means that we are cleaned up. We have to die to sin and we have to live to his righteousness if we want to have eternal life with God.

        [Lu. 9:23-25; Rom. 6:1-23; Rom. 8:1-17; Eph. 4:17-24; 1 Jn. 1:5-9; Gal. 5:19-21; Gal. 6:7-8; Tit. 2:11-14; 2 Co. 5:15; 1 Pet. 2:24]

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      4. Interesting point but I think from your point you are coming back to the same discussion, as you said “when you genuinely come to faith in Jesus Christ, but drift from the Lord in some way, he still loves you, yet he will discipline you in order to bring you back to him.” I believe we can best understand the love of the Father in the story of the prodigal son; the Father still loved him while he was even yet away and rejected him, His father received Him because of the love He had for Him and even there I don’t remember any discipline; perhaps the discipline came from the things he suffered while away. If God loved us while we were yet sinners; then I think the sin wouldn’t take away His love. Certainly God is not pleased when we sin, but with the love of God, He doesn’t love you more or less for what you do.
        It’s absolutely unconditional.

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      5. George, there is a difference between one who has genuinely died with Christ to sin, and has been living to Christ and his righteousness, who occasionally sins against God, and those who profess faith in Jesus Christ but who never crucified their flesh at the cross of Christ and so they have continued in their sinful practices claiming God’s love over themselves and his grace covering it all.

        So, we have to be so careful that we don’t communicate that we can ‘believe’ in Jesus and that God’s love will never be taken away from us no matter how much we sin. For, the promises of Romans 8 are to those who are walking according to the Spirit and not according to the flesh, for if we walk according to the flesh, we will die in our sins, not have eternal life with God.

        So, just saying we just need to be careful in how we word things, because we might unintentionally give people a false hope and lead them to believe that their sins have no impact on their relationship with God. For, if we walk in sin, we don’t have fellowship with God, and so we don’t have his intimate love guaranteed us.

        But, if we have this false notion that we can “believe” in Jesus and still make sin our practice, i.e. still hold on to our sinful addictions, and then claim the end of Romans 8 for ourselves, then that is false, so we need to read the end of Romans 8 in light of the whole of Romans 8 and we will realize who these promises are for. They are not for those who think their sins don’t matter to God and so they can keep on sinning. So, we don’t want to accidentally give a false impression that might lead people to a false hope. I know Efua would not want to do that. And, that is why, when she asked me to share my thoughts with her, I did. For, I care about her and I care about her readers and I care that they know the truth.

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      6. Sure I get you. But is a process, you don’t get just get there at an instance, no one did and that is why day by day we keep on feeding on His word.

        The teachings in the book of Romans follows very well; for instance Romans 6:11 tells us to reckon ourselves dead to sin and alive to God through Christ Jesus, because indeed any one who professes faith in Christ is no longer a slave to sin, because the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus makes him free from the law of sin and death giving him the power to live above sin.

        He may falter sometimes; but the truth is he or she is still dead to sin even if in experience he doesn’t see it immediately.

        I believe that the one who is in Christ Jesus is not in the flesh but in the Spirit because the Spirit of God dwells in Him or her (Romans 8:9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.)

        If He continues to sin; it could be a matter of him not knowing that he now has the power to live above sin and that is why we are being told to be transformed by the renewing of our minds day by day,

        So am in no way, disputing your point, I accept it very well and understand where you are coming from, but my point is no one who is truly born of God continues to make a practice of sin or enjoys sin. Then that salvation is questionable to a point.

        So I believe that the “the us in Romans 8:35 is for all of us who have the Spirit of Christ in them and are saved, and not necessarily for them who are experiencing greater success in their Christian walk. You see, there is a difference between your relationship with God and your fellowship with Him.

        Nothing can come between your relationship with God because of the depth of His love for you, that cannot be changed no matter what because you didn’t earn it. But that is not the same for fellowship which can be affected by what you do.

        I hope you get me though and it is my prayer that God give us all the grace to live for Him; in this crooked and perverse generation being assured of His love for us which neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from.

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      7. I agree and I think we are all saying the same thing. God loves us all but He isn’t pleased with us all. The closer we get to Him, the more He reveals Himself to us😊. He loves the sinners and the righteous. He doesn’t love the sin. I think the story of the prodigal son bro George shared helps bring this to light. Like I mentioned earlier, love and grace are no passes for sin. Thanks for taking out time to share your thoughts❤️


      8. George and Efua, it goes beyond what you are stating here. For, not everyone who professes faith in Jesus Christ is a genuine follower of Jesus Christ. Not everyone who says “Lord, Lord” is going to enter into the kingdom of heaven. And, that is my point.

        So, we have to be so careful in how we word things so that we don’t accidentally give assurances of eternal life and of God’s intimate continued love and grace toward all who profess his name. And, that is why we must always interpret scriptures in context. Context is everything!!!

        Anyway, this is the writing the Lord gave me this evening which I believe should be helpful to you both to understand my concern here. I truly believe we need to distinguish between those who profess faith in Christ but who feel they have the liberty to continue in their sins and those who have truly trusted in Christ as Lord but who sometimes fail and need to be restored. I hope you will both read this:


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      9. Thanks Sue. Having been following my blog for you a while, you will agree that I do not believe and do not teach the doctrine of grace as a yardstick to continue in sin. So yes I agree with your comment and I have shared a few posts with regards to this. However I still think that my post was clear and the context was clear. I mentioned before that the general love God has for the world was what I was referring to here which is true, otherwise John 3:16 has no ground to stand on. I am not saying that people should continue in sin. What I have said and still saying is that “I am a sinner” should not be the reason why we can’t come to God for cleansing. And once we are cleansed, through relationship and fellowship, we start getting closer to Him and experience deeper dimensions of His love. Relationships and fellowship helps us to separate from sin and stay closer to Christ. God bless and I will read your post❤️

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      10. Thanks for your comment sis. Although I agree that there are a lot of cheap grace messages out there, I honestly have never heard this scripture interpreted as an excuse to sin. I think your comment elaborates on my initial response in that God loves everyone regardless otherwise He wouldn’t die for us. But then we get to understand a deeper revelation of His love the more we become intimate with Him. Grace and love are no excuses to sin. Love disciplines and rebukes too.


      11. Efua, I have, many times. For, I have been teaching the scriptures now daily for 13 years, book by book and chapter by chapter and verse by verse for the first 11 years and then selected passages of scripture the past 2 years. And, I have written on many different sites on the internet during that time, and I have had many, many people respond to me claiming this passage of scripture at the end of Romans 8 saying that no matter how much they sin, and even if they continue in their sinful practices, God will never be taken away from them. And, so they feel liberated to continue in their sinful practices, because they have been told God will never leave them and that they can’t lose him no matter how much they sin. But, that just isn’t true. And, the scriptures are real clear on that. I have heard many many excuses for sin and continued sin over the past 13 years of writing on the internet, so I speak from experience and from knowledge. They repeat the same lies over and over and over again. Over time, you learn them well, and so you recognize them right away, and so you become sensitized to how many different ways people can twist the scriptures to excuse away their sin, and that is why I say be careful how you word things so that you don’t give them an opportunity to claim that their sins will never separate them from God. For, the Lord dispels that notion over and over again in scripture. If we walk according to the flesh and not according to the Spirit, then we will die in our sins, not have eternal life with God. Thank you for this opportunity to share these truths from the Word of God on your site, Efua. God be with you.

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