I am naturally empathetic. I want to fix the world’sproblem. Whenever I hear an issue, the next thing that comes to my mind is about fixing that issue. I will do anything I can to help. If you are like me, you will understand what I mean. Seeing people struggle hurts me deeply. I remember my husband advising me to apply wisdom in giving to charity because if you leave me to it, I will spend all my money in donating to every charity advertisement that comes up on TV. Despite being one of the best things I love about myself, it also comes with the not so good part.
Recently I started analysing how much I invest into people emotionally. I hate not seeing people through to the end and this has costs me greatly. It has cost me my time and peace.
I am not Jesus Christ. I am not the answer to everyone’s problem. I will crash if I am because I wasn’t designed for that task.
If you can relate, we need to change. It’s ok to show empathy and help others. However it shouldn’t cost us our peace. If we are always attending to everything, we won’t have enough to fulfil destiny. We need to know the task we’ve been called to tackle and be willing to accept that we can’t help everyone because our resources are limited.
As you are looking after everyone, it’s important to also ask yourself who is looking after you. Do you have enough to water your vineyard or have you given away everything including yourself?
I appreciate you for your heart to help others in a world where people are running for themselves only.
We are not Jesus Christ but we are all called to be like Him and to Do Greater things through Him. We can only give what we have or what we have received. The problem is when we don’t receive from God then it becomes a hard work and tiring thing to help others and it will exhaust us. But when we receive Strength from God The Father it becomes a natural thing to help others because God will help us and fill us with His strength. When you understand what God has done for you through Jesus Christ then you will know your true value in God The Father And The Love He has towards you His Daughter.
“but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.””
John 4:14 ESV
http://bible.com/59/jhn.4.14.esv
God bless you and make you more like Jesus Christ so that you may be a Blessing and Light to many who are struggling and in pain.
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Thanks for your comment which is highly appreciated. I think you missed the point I am making here. I am not saying we shouldn’t help. We certainly should help others when we can. However we need to understand and accept that we do not have unlimited resources. If we do, then people don’t need Jesus Christ. I agree we should be like Christ but that doesn’t mean we are Christ or we can be Christ. I hope you understand what I mean. Blessings to you.
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As someone who struggles with over giving- I could definitely relate to this! I always feel like I don’t have enough money to support all the causes I want to!
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I’m glad you can relate to it! How are dealing with this habit?
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I try to prioritize which charities mean the most to me and only donate to one or two
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Good tip. May God strengthen and give you wisdom in all you do. Keep being a light in this dark world!
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Thank you ♥️
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Amen!
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We can’t be everything to everybody. We individually are only one person, and yes, we do have limited resources, especially when you are my age (soon to be 69). Yet, I have seen God work miracles in my body and in my mind, too, when my physical strength was spent, and I did not have it in me at all to do what I knew God was calling me to do. But, he provided.
The important thing here, I believe, is that we seek God’s face concerning who to help, and how much to do, and when to do it and how, and when to say “Yes” and when to say “No,” and to know that it is ok to say “No,” too. We need to ask the Lord what he wants instead of just following our emotions, even if our emotions are good and our desire is to help other people.
We all need wisdom from above to make certain that we are following the Lord’s lead and not our own emotions. My heart easily goes the direction of the hurting, but sometimes I am taken for a ride, too, because I let my feelings decide what to do without praying and making certain it was God’s will. And, I can’t be there for everyone all the time, either, for I am just one person.
So, you are right that we need to accept our limitations, yet I believe we also need to trust the Lord to provide beyond our natural abilities, too, when he has something he wants us to do in us and through us for his glory, where he will get all the praise.
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Well said Sue. I too believe and have experienced supernatural provision of God to help others. I agree we should pray for leading. Proverbs 3:5 comes to mind.
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Good point! Of course, we are here to serve God’s kingdom and others, but we will crash and burn if we do not take care of ourselves! People forget that we should love ourselves the way God loves us.
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Exactly my point. Glad you got it!
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This is a great post, Efua. I really enjoyed it and liked when you said, “I am not Jesus Christ. I am not the answer to everyone’s problem. I will crash if I am because I wasn’t designed for that task.
If you can relate, we need to change. It’s ok to show empathy and help others. However it shouldn’t cost us our peace. If we are always attending to everything, we won’t have enough to fulfil destiny. We need to know the task we’ve been called to tackle and be willing to accept that we can’t help everyone because our resources are limited.”
I can definitely relate because I too want to seek the wellbeing of the people around me.
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Glad you were able with it. Blessings to you!
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Amen!!! I relate and in time God has helped me so much in revealing when I need to let go or back off. It is not always easy. But the Potter knows what He is doing.
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Absolutely. We are the body. One person is the hand and the other the leg. We need to know what our duty is and know that a hand cannot do everything the other parts are meant to do.
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Amen!!!
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Thanks Efua! My husband finally discussed giving with me in the spring. In May, I’d given to so many “good” things, I’d run out of money. He agreed I could give my tithe and support my Bridge of Hope student, but had to cut out everything else. This helped me put things in order (along with a book and a Jewish father’s example to his son about spending). So now, I still support my BOH student and have begun supporting Sid Roth’s ISN monthly. It makes it much easier to figure out finances each month; I still can give randomly to needs at church and such as they arise and as my finances allow. God is good, I’ve been gifted one way or another with extra finances as needed!
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That is exactly what I mean sis. I am not saying people should not give. But we do not have unlimited resources so we need to apply wisdom. I thank God for using your husband to help you. Blessings to you sis
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