Mentoring In Church | Older Men & Younger Men

This is the second part to this topic. Last time I talked about the older and younger women. If you haven’t seen it, please read it here.

Today I would like to address the men. Men play a very significant role in the home, church and society. God didn’t make a mistake when He made man the head of the family. The family is the basic unit of life. If the family is in order, the community and the world will be in order. The chaos in the world we live in today is a reflection of what is happening within our homes.

God has given the man very a big responsibility and also gave him the seed to reproduce after his kind. The devil being very cunny and always wanting to destroy the order of God, is on a mission to strip the man off his position. He is doing this by making him loose his identity and confidence. He has created a bad seed into most marriages by making the woman think she can and should be the head.

One of the challenges we have today is that most men are scared to take up responsibilities because they question their ability to meet the high expectation that has been set for them. As a result, they shy away from things they really should be doing. We see this in churches. Women’s ministries are always full when compared with that of the men. We see a lot of women organisations springing fort and barely nothing out there for men. Women are taught from a young age on how to be a lady, wife, etc while the men are left alone to figure life out on their own.

I have always heard of Titus 2 woman but I have never heard of the Titus 2 man. It shouldn’t be so.

This is what Paul told Titus.

“Urge the older men to be temperate, venerable (serious), sensible, self-controlled, and sound in the faith, in the love, and in the steadfastness and patience [of Christ].”

“In a similar way, urge the younger men to be self-restrained and to behave prudently [taking life seriously]. And show your own self in all respects to be a pattern and a model of good deeds and works, teaching what is unadulterated, showing gravity [having the strictest regard for truth and purity of motive], with dignity and seriousness.”

‭‭Titus‬ ‭2:2,6&7‬ ‭AMPC‬‬

I love how he tells men to be serious about the things of God. Don’t take the work of God trivially. Prayer meetings aren’t only for women. You’ve got to show up too.

It also talks about being sound in faith. Know God for yourself. Your wife isn’t going to be able to fight all your battles for you. You’ve got to know how to pull up your bible and study for yourself.

Love! Yes, we often hear love a lot when the topic is about women. However Paul is saying men need to show love in church as well. Don’t leave hospitality for the women’s ministry alone.

Take the younger ones under your wings. Not many out there have someone who can guard and teach them. If you don’t, they are going to make the same mistakes you made and the circle is going to continue. It’s about time we broke the viscous circle and start making things a little bit easier for the next generation. “Grandma was a prayer warrior.” “Mum always made me go to church”. Let’s start hearing things like these about men too.

The younger men needs to see good examples of how to be men. They need to see older men practicing what they preach. I love how NLT says “encourage the young men to live wisely.” Yes! They need encouragement. The devil is out there skimming and planning on how to thwart their destinies so he can destroy their generation. Please godly men stand up and fight! Be an example in prayer, fasting, worship, holiness, hard work, integrity, patience and love.

If you are a young man, find an older man to mentor you. Visit his family and see how he exercises leadership. You will be glad you did.

Certain things make more sense to a young man when it comes from the mouth of an older man. Engage in “men talks” that will challenge them to do better. Set up clubs for young men in your church and communities. Set up prayer meetings for just the men. They need it for growth. You need it for your growth and legacy.

If you are an older man, do you have your “Titus?”

If you are a younger man, do you have your “Paul?”

10 thoughts on “Mentoring In Church | Older Men & Younger Men

    1. Not good that! I don’t think it’s in our place to control people as it never yields a good result. Controlling spirit isn’t of God in my opinion. I love how Paul said Timothy should be an example not a dictator. We’ve got to practice what we preach

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