Last week I was chatting with someone who was responding to one of my blog posts. In the end she said “a lot of people are tired of going to church”. I affirmed what she said based on what I have noticed too.
Last Sunday in my church, we had a barbecue event. During the event, one of the young people who I was chatting with said “Aunty, I am tired of going to church”. And no he is not a rebellious child who just want to hang out with bad guys. This guy is saved. But he was speaking his truth and I listened.
Ah! I have felt this way countless number of times. Pretence is a pet peeve of mine and I cannot blend where it is found. So this too is my truth.
Last week, I read a post from a fellow blogger and in the end, I left a prayer for the church in the comment section because really, that was all I could do.
The decline in church attendance cuts across every demographic, ethnicity and race. The old and young seem to be singing similar tune.
What I have discovered is that people are only tired of going to what we have made church to be. They still long for fellowship, closeness and a sense of family. When this isn’t found in an assembly, the feeling of “I am tired of going to church” creeps in.
A church is a family. We aren’t only family on Sundays or service days. We should be family always.
One of the things that really gets to me is when people wear masks in church. I have never understood the faith behind not telling the truth. Many times I have seen situations where people who are sincerely asked how they are doing; give a quick response of “everything is fine. I am ok”. From body language, you can see they don’t want to carry on with the conversation. You leave thinking “no you are not fine. I only just wanted to hug you and pray with you.” You are then left with the feeling of “maybe I shouldn’t ask next time”. I don’t know if you understand. But this situation can be very tricky.
Sometimes in church, I feel like I am walking on eggshell. People are misunderstood even before they are known. Have you even been there? I have had times when I am not scared to speak but sincerely just fed up of being misunderstood. Times like that, I keep my lips sealed.
Clearly all of this isn’t always the devil. It is also our attitude as well. Just maybe, if I am a little nicer, and you are a little nicer, that brother and sister will feel TRULY loved.
On the flip side, maybe I am not the only one who is tired of going to church. Maybe majority are but have gotten into the rhythm and don’t want to leave for fear of what others will say.
Maybe others are; but are just too scared to say something because these days, church fighters and defenders are ready to pounce on you even before you finish your sentence.
Maybe the remaining fraction truly like the church but do believe it can and should be better.
The truth is that whatever category we fall in, there is a place in our heart where we wish the church is different from what it currently is.
I know it’s a place for sick people…. yeah I know that line and there is a sense of truth in it. But if we don’t find the fruit of the spirit in church, where are we supposed to find it? Praying till our vocal cords are destroyed won’t do any good if we forget the principle of love. Routine bores the heck out of us all. Church ministers are scared of taking services out of the usual location just so members are not lost. Focus is so much on numbers and not intimacy. I can go on and on but I will leave it there.
And no! I am still saved. I still love my Jesus Christ like crazy. I believe in the church so no need to give me countless benefits of church in the comment section. I am not going to stop going to church because I have experienced the good things that comes with it too.
I love the church. But sometimes I’m tired of going to church too. I want fellowship. I want family. I want SINCERITY. I don’t really care about address, building, quality of church equipments.
A church that isn’t confined to a building
A church that reaches out to community
A church that is secure enough to embrace the good things that the other parts of her body is doing.
A church that truly understands the concept of faith and work. I honestly feel we currently have 2 extremes with this. The part who would rather sit in church morning till night praying for change without stepping out to do anything. And the other part which believes so much in motivational speeches and human wisdom without applying godly principles to it.
A church who will not spend all her time focusing and debating on irrelevant matters and losing sight of what truly matters.
A church that gladdens the heart of Our Father always.
I want a church. I pray for a church. Not what we currently have. But the kind of church Jesus Christ will be pleased with.