Once in a while i try to delve into issues that are not really talked about a lot in church. Naturally i like to confront issues instead of burying my head in the sand. I do feel that certain issues plaguing our society and to be honest and churches; are often not addressed maybe because of fear or because we don’t know what to say or how to go about dealing with them. However when we see young and old people in church doing these things, we can’t just close our eyes and keep moving.
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In my work place, there is someone who to be honest is one of the nicest person at work. A hard-worker, funny, witty, humble and someone who laughs a lot (just like me), knows the job and gets it done. We have a lot of conversations about how different our cultures are. This individual opens us to me about personal life, past struggles and victories. Despite us being similar in terms of values, there is one bit where we are very different. He is gay.
For the sake of anonymity i will address this individual as a guy and call him Smith.
When i joined my company few months ago, Smith was one of the people who made settling in very easy. Despite we aren’t in the same team, his wittiness made the day go really quick as his funny jokes kept me going. To be honest, i knew something was different about Smith. And quickly my guess was confirmed. The day this was confirmed, the ‘church’ in me instantly created a border between us. I started seeing him like someone who was already in hell. Although i didn’t say anything, my heart was different towards him.
Should i be feeling this way as someone who is Christlike?
Will Jesus Christ feel and see him this way?
Anyway, the more i spoke with Smith, the more i realized that apart from this area of his life, we were similar. Very similar.
One day i began to think about Smith and others like him and a thought came to my mind. If Smith was someone who tells ‘white lies’ (although i don’t believe in this term), someone who swears, someone who is living with a partner outside of marriage, proud, jealous, someone who isn’t gay but just a normal good guy who doesn’t believe in Jesus Christ, will i view him through the same lens? Will these sins be as weighty as homosexuality in my eyes?
If i can go for tea with someone who tells white lies, will i go for tea with Smith or someone like him?
As i thought about this, it became clearer to me how the church weighs some sins over others. A blind eyes is turned towards a guy and a girl cohabiting but we are quick to send someone like Smith to hell. We call out Smith and others like him, but we are kind of quiet about the wickedness, greediness and all other vices seen in churches daily.
We are quick sometimes to point out the fact that we are speaking for God. Oh well maybe. But Jesus spoke against SIN and SINNERS. And just for definition, i love the definition of sin i learnt as a child in Sunday school. It’s a simple and straight forward definition. It says a sin is anything that does not please God.
God does not categorize sin. The earthly consequences might be different but the eternal consequence is the same.
I have noticed personally that the church is good at shouting about bigger sins but very quiet about smaller ones. If we believe in eternal condemnation of sinners in general; not just homosexuals then our approach towards homosexuals will change.
SIN IS SIN
God HATES sin but LOVES the sinner. This is something we are yet to grasp as a church.
If God shows us our hearts in open and plays it for the whole world to see, we will see that many of us are in no way better than homosexuals. We just have a different kind of sin we commit.
If we believe that the same hell a homosexual person is going to, is the same hell the person with unforgiveness (regardless of how badly you were hurt) is going to, then maybe we will start using a different approach.
Please i am not saying we should entertain and habor homosexuality in the church. What i am saying is that we should define sin as it is and see sin the way God sees it.
As i was searching for an image for this post, i came across a lot of images that totally wrecked me. My heart is very heavy about this issue and i honestly do not agree with the way both extremes of the church are dealing with it. I do not agree with the current approach and i also do not agree with those who are promoting gay weddings in church.
Homosexuality is a sin. Anybody who dies as a sinner regardless of the sin you commit, will go to hell. Don’t tell me not to judge. That is what the bible says. See Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9, 1 Timothy 1:10. If you don’t agree, it’s OK. Take your case to Jesus Christ and ask Him why He said so.
Smith isn’t different from me when i was living in sin. There is a spirit behind homosexuality. The spirit is what we should be mad about and pray against. Not the person. If your child tells a lie, will you cast out your child or you will pray against that spirit? I guess the latter will be your answer. There is a force behind this. The spirit of darkness is at war with the spirit of light. When we grasp this revelation, we will use a different approach.
My attitude towards Smith has changed. My heart is a lot freer towards him as a person (not his sin). Smith knows i love Jesus Christ. Yes if you meet me more than once, you will know i love and talk about Jesus, church, my husband and my kids (yes i am annoying like that but people still love me haha!).
I would love to talk about Jesus Christ with Smith. We have talked about a lot of life issues. Smith has told me that he used to be a christian. That makes it even more difficult to talk about because he already know most of the things i will be telling him. However i believe when the right time comes, the Holy Spirit will put the right words in my mouth and change his heart.
Praying for Smith and everyone living in sin. That they will have an encounter with Jesus Christ and embrace the love of God.
As a christian, do you agree or disagree?
As a non-christian, how do you view this topic?
How do you think things can be done differently in the church?