Ever felt like you are in a place where you no longer long for God? Spending time with God looks like a big mountain that you really don’t want to climb. You know what you are meant to do but you don’t just have the desire to do them. You know you should pray, and study the word but you just can’t be bothered about it. You’re getting all the convictions and still you’re sat watching TV.
You might read this title and feel this post is not for you because desire is a strong word. You might be thinking you always desire God. But our actions prove if our words are true or not. As you read, i urge you to search your heart.
We find ourselves making series of excuses as to why we can’t spend time with God. You have a job. You run a business. You have kids. Or maybe your excuse is that you have a husband. Being a single mum is hard so that sounds like a justifiable reason.
I get it. I understand. I sympathise with you. I find myself making these excuses sometimes too. However i have come to realise that the time i spend with God is the time i get refilled to continue my task. Some of us are running on empty. We are constantly stressed and worn out. Life is tough and it can be very overwhelming.
The more task we have, the more it becomes crucial for us to spend time with God.
I personally find this challenging. I work full time, with a husband and young kids, i have my blog, my girls group. All of these take time to juggle. So if anyone should understand, i completely do. It’s easy for someone who doesn’t leave the house till late in the day to advice someone else to wake up early and spend hours praying before leaving the house.
Despite saying this, i have realised that we often make excuses for something we don’t want to do. If we want to do it, we will find a way to do it. If you are like me, you can’t find time to spend with God because really there is no enough time in the day. You just have to create time for it. If it’s important to us, then we should do it. So to be honest, it’s never a lack of time issue. It’s a heart issue. It’s lack of desire. Matthew 6:21 sums it up by saying, Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.
The more we spend time with God, the more we will long for His presence. Communication builds a relationship. If i live with my husband and i don’t talk to him for 1 month, the level of my intimacy with him will certainly decrease. Do you remember that friend who you used to chat with all the time, it felt like you both were besties. But when that friend moved to a different city and you both stopped communicating, how quick the fondless died? This is exactly how our relationship with God is.
If you find yourself no longer desiring God, the best thing you can do is to get back to spending time with God. Because you haven’t done it for a while, it might take a little bit of getting used to again. However, the more you do it, the easier it will become.
How do i create time to spend with God in my busy life?
First and foremost, you need to break yourself free from people bondage and stop beating yourself up if a particular pattern doesn’t work for you. If morning works for you, do it. Personally i don’t buy into the argument that you have to do it in the morning. Like i said before, it’s easy to say this when it works for you. God will hold a rod or restrain Himself from you just because you decided not to do this in the morning. Do what works for you. I used to do mine in the morning but it didn’t work for me because i was so conscious of time. My mind was more on the fact i needed to rush so i could start getting the kids ready for school and not go late to work. So now i do things differently.
I will share what i do as an example.
Once i wake up in the morning, i say a prayer. I find the bible app very useful, i look for a scripture to meditate on for the day. Most times, a scripture comes to my mind. Other times, i use the bible verse for that day on my bible app.
So remember how i said we have to create time for this. That is basically what i try to do. My kids go to bed at 8pm. So from that time till 9pm, i sort out things for the next day. From 9pm till 10pm, it’s my quiet time. I try to stick to this plan most times but there are times i push the time a bit more. I realised i am a better wife and mum when i do this. I’m able to serve my husband and kids as unto the Lord. I’m able to have self control and not flare up at every single thing.
If you can’t do evenings, you can do it in your car or a quiet place during your lunch break at work.
It’s very important for us to invest in this area of our lives because we cannot give what we don’t have. I challenge you today to stop making excuses. Stop using the blessings that God has given you as excuses to withdraw from His presence. It’s very easy to allow God’s blessings in our lives to become our idols. If we don’t check ourselves, we will soon find out that we are adoring and worshipping our kids, husbands, careers, businesses, education more than God. That is a very dangerous zone to be in because God doesn’t share His glory. He is a jealous God.
The word of God is life and light. When we unplug ourselves from our Source, our light goes dim because there is nothing to illuminate our hearts anymore. As a result we find ourselves gradually sliding towards sin. The fruits of the flesh begin to spring out of us.
Come back to your first love. Come back to the One who can fill you. Stop running around on empty so you don’t burn out. You will be of no good to yourself or anyone else if you are burning.
Thanks for reading.
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