My job exposes and helps me to see the pain that people can/are going through. Most times, it brings me to a place of gratitude to God for my life and also reminds me to be very careful of how i relate and treat other people.
From having to deal with a life claim for people younger than myself, to answering a phone call from a young wife whose husband just experienced a stroke in the past, i can say there is a lot of pain in the world.
Just a quick stats to help you see what i mean.
- There were 525,048 deaths recorded in England and Wales in 2016.
- There are more than 100,000 strokes recorded in the UK every year. That is ones stroke every five minutes.
- There were around 357,000 new cases of cancer in the UK in 2014, that’s 980 cases diagnosed every day. Every two minutes someone in the UK is diagnosed with cancer.
- Everyday 6,000 people take an unpaid caring responsibility.
- Almost a third of adults have experienced a shock to their finances in the last five years, such as job loss or a reduction in hours.
This statistics is just for the UK alone and i’m sure it’s similar in other countries. The individuals and families affected are living amongst us daily – someone you drove passed today, someone you see everyday, someone you think is acting crazy is affected by one of these life tragedies. These heart wrenching life challenges makes many vulnerable. There is a deep pain beneath that ‘i’m fine’ response we get from people. A lot are hurting. Tears are shed behind closed doors. Some haven’t been given a hug for a while.
The above stats doesn’t even capture everything. Imagine the homeless, the lonely and those with mental disabilities. Imagine the broken homes and that child whose dad denied him even before he was born.
They might not be walking around with a sign that says ‘help! I am vulnerable’. But if you look deeply, you will be able to see the pain hidden beneath that smile.
Can you join me today as we challenge ourselves to be intentional in being nice to everyone we meet? I call it a challenge because not everyone will be nice to us. But you never know the reason why people act the way they do. Most times people aren’t mad at us. They are mad with what life is offering them.
Probably that girl would have opened up if you allowed her finish her sentence without judging her. Maybe that guy who was rude to you yesterday for no reason is acting that way because his mum who single handedly took care of him has just been told that she has 2 months to live. It could be that your neighbour who has become silent all of a sudden has just lost a dear one. But you aren’t aware not because they didn’t tell you; because you are too busy to notice.
Let’s be light. Quick to listen. Slow to criticise. Slow to judge. Quick to hug. Quick to help.
Will you join me?
And as we do this, let’s remember to be thankful for what we have. And if you are experiences any pain, if your heart is broken for any reason, please know that i am praying for you today. May God mend your broken heart.
May God’s peace fill your hearts❤️🙏🏾