“Why Me?”

If you are reading this post, i would like to believe you have asked this question sometime in your life. There are many reasons why this question is usually asked. However for this post, i would like to focus on the spiritual side.

The truth about our faith is that it isn’t a sweet sweet journey. Inasmuch as we like to pray ourselves out of everything, cast out everything that causes the littlest discomfort, claim every good thing in this world by faith and search for bible scriptures to back these up, it just doesn’t work that way.

If we claim that Jesus Christ is our perfect example and we are His followers, why then do we filter the things we want from His life. We want the kind of power He has without the pain He went through on the cross. We want to work in the same authority that the apostles had, without the trials and pain they endured. We want the crown but we genuinely don’t want the cross.

Now i understand that there are different kinds of afflictions. There are some that comes as a result of our human errors. I am not referring to those.

I sometimes struggle when engaging with other believers with conversations like this because i am often interrupted with words like “God has given us the victory”, which of course is true. However the victory isn’t always about God not allowing us to be thrown into the burning furnace. The victory can also be about God showing up with us in the burning furnace. I know this isn’t really the most exciting post but we all need to be reminded that the cross isn’t glittering in gold. It doesn’t come in form of a Rolls Royce, mansion, large congregation, neither does it come in the way success is often defined by the world.

Jesus Christ was introduced to the world by a star, but hours before his birth it was a struggle to find where to birth Him. He rod on a horse as worship rained on Him during the triumphant entrance to Jerusalem. However the same crowd shouted “crucify Him” few days later. The same Jesus who was listened to by all His disciples, had no one to support Him when He was facing death. The same Jesus who attracted crowd also experienced rejection by men. So why do we think we can enjoy the glorious glory without going through the painful story. Why do we think we can take a short cut to this? Why aren’t we comfortable anymore to talk about suffering for Christ’s sake.

I remember months ago, i was having a pity party for myself as i was asking God the “why me” question. And then i asked myself “why not me?” Why should the pain i am going through be given to someone else? Why should my cross be assigned to someone else? I feel the idea that Jesus Christ died so we do not suffer is often misinterpreted. Jesus Christ didn’t die for us to be cross free.

“Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross daily, and follow me.”

Luke 9:23

“Then he said to the crowd, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must give up your own way, take up your tiniest flimsiest stick daily, and follow me.”

(Notinthebible 1:1)

Unfortunately we interpret the first bible verse like the second made up version. The cross is heavy, very uncomfortable to carry, causes the kind of attention you won’t like, tiring, will make you sweat, will give you bruises and will be unbearable sometimes.

You can’t just stroll into paradise after walking through earth with your tiny little stick and expect to have the kind of mansion Paul has🤷🏽‍♀️.

“Ermmm God’s will isn’t for us to suffer”. “His thoughts for us are of good and not of evil”. But wait a minute, it was His will for Jesus to die, He allowed Job to be attacked, He allowed the thorn on Paul’s flesh, He allowed the disciples to die the way they did, He allowed the 3 Hebrew guys to be thrown into the burning furnace, He allowed Daniel to be thrown into the lions den, He allowed Mary to experience the pain of watching her son killed, He allowed an innocent Joseph to be thrown into prison, just to name a few. All of these He could have prevented from happening but He didn’t.

Ouch Efua this post is too harsh! That is my point. When a child is born, the child feeds on milk. However from the age of 6 months onward, paediatricians tell us that milk alone isn’t sufficient for that child to grow healthy. I feel we are breeding a generation of malnourished christians because we claim everything by faith and want to pray ourselves out of every pain we encounter. “God help me drink from this bitter cup” is no longer an ok prayer. If you raise a prayer point like this, people might not even pray because we want “God take this cup away” kind of prayer point. Friends, He isn’t going to take every bitter cup away. If He does, you won’t be able to grow as a child of His.

Many have been sold the easy breezy gospel hence they fall apart when trials come. Many are walking about like 40 years old with pacifiers in their mouth.

Believe it or not, not all of our prayers will be answered before we leave this earth. I would like to think that the church was praying for the deliverance of the martyrs in the bible but still they died the way they did.

Does this mean that we should just accept everything that the devil throws at us and not understand our heritage in Christ? No. My point is to affirm the fact that we need to be prepared to go through trials, pain and tribulations in this journey. Our response to these is what will prove our love for our Saviour.

If we want to impact this world the way the apostles did, we also have to be willing to have the same mindset they did; serve despite the pain. No pain, no gain.

I would encourage you to read a blog post by God’s warrior titled Are You Willing to Suffer for Christ? It gives a lot of great insight into this topic.

As great as Paul was, He had a thorn in his flesh that wasn’t taken away. Let’s leave this comfortable kind of christian life that we are beginning to believe and understand what true followership means.

I am talking to myself too as i write this. It’s a lot to take but it’s about time we got things right. I know it isn’t easy. Trust me I have trials currently that I prayed God take away immediately as far back as 4 years ago. However I have learnt in this process that there is no need for grace if there is no trials. The bible won’t encourage us to endure if there won’t be a need for it.

The best way to pray is like Jesus “not my will but Yours be done.”

I would like to end this blog with my last sentence on my comment in God’s warrior’s post. When you go into a battle well informed and prepared, you are more likely to win.

Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later.

Romans 8:18

Blessings!


22 thoughts on ““Why Me?”

  1. We can’t afford to sugar coat this walk that we are on. We need to learn to not try to ignore the pain and trials we fade but to understand that it’s in those times we experience God! It’s in those times we see how powerful He is. Do we pray for hard times? No!
    We understand the hard times like a hot furnace to gold is refining us. We are learning by each test to trust in the Lord more and more!
    Great post!

    Rolain

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  2. This was such a great blog post Efua and thank you for referencing my blog post because I want to give people a different, biblical perspective on a Christian’s walk with Christ.

    I liked in your post when you said, “So why do we think we can enjoy the glorious glory without going through the painful story. Why do we think we can take a short cut to this? Why aren’t we comfortable anymore to talk about suffering for Christ’s sake.”

    There are NO shortcuts when it comes to following Christ. This is no other way that we can truly impact the world if we hold onto a diluted, misinterpreted view of what following Christ is like.

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    1. “This is no other way that we can truly impact the world if we hold onto a diluted, misinterpreted view of what following Christ is like.” True. Topics like this aren’t popular and they usually don’t get a lot of Amen. However they are true. Thanks for sharing the undulated truth of God’s word.

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  3. Why me test is something we need to pass through as a believer in order for the name of God to be glorified.It’s very difficult when we are facing the why me test but we should always remember that no pain,no gain.Life in general is not a bed of roses. God will help us in Jesus name.

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    1. Amen. I like how you said we NEED to pass through it as Christians. It’s very important that we remember that trials are part of the package that comes with our faith walk. It’s absolutely difficult when the heat is on. However knowing that we NEED to pass through it, helps us to develop a better perspective about it. No matter how righteous we, or how much we pray against difficult situations, we will always be faced with them if we want testimonies. Like you said life in general isn’t a bed of roses. Praying we learn to not run away from the process. Thanks sis

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  4. G’day Efua, kind of opened up a can of worms there in your post! Loved that you shared your perspective on this issue and awesome to see you also quote from the notinthebible version lol.

    Was reading Luke this morning and I was amazed at how fast the crowd can change. There was a verse were people were wowed by the words of Jesus and were hanging off every work, it was only a couple of verses later that the crowed wanted to throw him off a cliff! We want to be salt and light but how prepared are we to speak to the truth that causes people to want to run us out of town.

    Thanks for the thought provoking post

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    1. “Was reading Luke this morning and I was amazed at how fast the crowd can change. There was a verse were people were wowed by the words of Jesus and were hanging off every work, it was only a couple of verses later that the crowed wanted to throw him off a cliff! We want to be salt and light but how prepared are we to speak to the truth that causes people to want to run us out of town.” That moment when a comment becomes a comfort! On Saturday night, God showed me a revelation on Hebrews 12:1-3. He showed me how the likes of Moses, the apostles and prophets in the bible were witnesses to our faith walk. He showed me a particular revelation on how they were testifying for and against us. This made me cry all night as I compared what I am doing now to what they did. This happened after I wrote this blog. The more I share this message, the more my heart breaks😢. It breaks because I feel like I should be an encourager and not always be the one to talk harshly and tough. I even was tempted to tell God to give messages like this to someone else to deliver instead on me because of how I am feeling. To be honest on my part it has been a good eye opener and a big wake up call. However I felt like I didn’t need to share. Maybe I would have felt better if I kept quiet.

      The last paragraph of your comment have brought me so much peace. Just can’t stop crying as God is showing to me again that He loves and sees how we feel. Evad thank you for allowing God use your words to bring me comfort. It hurts to share messages that is often misinterpreted as messages of doom. However I would rather share and save a soul than to be quiet and see clouds going to hell. God bless you!

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      1. Yo, my pleasure Efua, it sounds like you are on an amazing journey. Its always fascinating when it comes to understanding more of how God wants to use us.

        I recently watched a video (I think it was a john piper one and im giving you the gist) where he was interviewing a pastor and they were discussing how Jesus is way, truth and life and no one comes to the father except through him. This is a hard and often harsh truth for people to hear and they can get angry. The pastor went on to say that he says to people that they can take it up with Jesus if they have a problem with it, it was Jesus who said it after all.

        The point is we work so hard at convincing people of our perspective or opinion when we should instead be talking about Gods view, what he thinks about stuff. People may not always dig it but that’s ok, they can argue with God if they have a problem. We are representatives of Christ, so lets keep on track with that yeah,

        Peace 2 you!

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      2. Yea. Same words my husband was telling me yesternight. I have been praying to go deeper in God and that God should show and reveal more things to me. I just never envisaged it will make me feel this way.

        I love the response of the pastor during that interview. Guess I might steal his lines lol.

        Can’t even imagine how the prophets of old who went ahead to deliver not so good news to people did it. It is absolutely heart wrenching for me.

        Praying for God not to go timid and for spirit of boldness.

        Thanks again Evad. God bless you!

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  5. Wow this is such a great point. I really believe our present day churches have failed the average Christian. We are constantly thought the sweet side of the gospel (salvation, grace, blessing) but not the salty side of discipleship and bearing that cross. My prayers is that God will continue to enlighten the eyes of our understanding especially in our present time.

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    1. Amen! I love sweet messages too and i guess everyone does. But like you said it is dangerous to dish only from the sweet spot because the total package comes with the sour and bitter side too. Praying we fully understand and embrace our calling in Christ. Thanks sis 🙂

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