We are always in a rush these days to move to the next phase of life. Kids wants to become young adults too soon. They don’t like dressing like their age anymore because they just can’t wait to leave childhood. Young adults are rushing into maturity and they want to know everything about life now. Singles are rushing into the marriage wagon because they are sick and tired of being single. Married folks are busy wishing their days away, counting the number of kids they want to have. Parents of little kids can’t wait for the kids to grow up and become independent so they can have a bit of ‘space’….. the cycle goes on and on.
We are always told to think ahead (which can be a good thing). However we need to also know that every season has a lesson and blessing attached to it. We go through different seasons in life. “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” Ecclesiastics 3:1. It may not be your season of harvest. This could be your season of sowing. Instead of envying those who are in their season of harvest, enjoy your season. Every moment isn’t a moment of experiencing a miracle. Some moments are times when we are to wait and be still and endure.
Don’t be busy dreaming and rushing to reach your next season that you totally miss out on the blessings and lessons to be learnt in the season you are in. Stop focusing on ‘what next’ and get busy with what you have now. This season is preparing you for the next.
Are you a child? Listen to your parents. Learn from their mistakes. No! they are not a bunch of old folks who know nothing about the new way of life. Stop thinking that they don’t know what you are going through. No one was born as an adult. Every one had to be a child before becoming an adult; so they have an idea why you might not be happy. The world then and now might be different but the same basic principles of becoming a responsible adult applies. Enjoy this season of being under them.
Are you a young adult? Enjoy the luxury of being under your parents. Don’t attempt to rush out. Save your money and stay with them as long as necessary. Your parents are there to cover and protect you. Heed to their advice. They have gone through your phase before so they know what they are saying to you. (I know there are exceptional circumstances where a child may have to move out. Those cases are understandable). Serve God with your strength and time. Join a youth group and be active there. Look for good community groups to join. Learn to give now. You don’t need to be a grown up before you know it is vital to give. Show compassion to people around you. Time will come when you won’t be able to do as much as you are able to do now. Don’t misuse this energy that you have. Don’t waste this season. Remember your Creator in the days of your youth, before the days of trouble come and the years approach when you will say, “I find no pleasure in them. (Ecclesiastics 12:1)
Are you single? Embrace this season of life. You have your time to yourself. You have no one asking you where you are going or when you are coming. Use this free time to know God more. Be obsessed with the word and things of God. Don’t spend this season becoming a gossip champion or being the most popular person (in a bad way). You have no spouse or child to cook for, or clean for, or give your attention to. Use your time well. It’s ticking quick.
Just got married? Spend time to know the person you are spending the rest of your life with. Enjoy the peace of travelling, chatting, shopping and doing life together without distractions. Trust me; life won’t be this quiet once the little humans (kids) come in.
Are you a parent? Enjoy this phase. Very soon you will be looking for that little child you birthed because s/he won’t be small for long. Be the best role model you can be for them. Laugh, cry, dance and do life with your kids. You will look back at these moments and wonder how fast they flew by.
Each phase has its own challenges but rushing out of it isn’t the best way. The stages of life are interlinked. Lessons learnt in one stage are useful in the next. Take life one step at a time. Don’t stay idle wishing your days away. Life is too short for you to live that way. If you doubt me, ask the elderly.